Okay, first of all, I don’t mean labels on books or those that you write your name on 😉 I mean social ones. The ones that people get assigned in high-school and sometimes those very labels, that were just given to you without a care by people that don’t even know you, can haunt you for a lot longer than just high-school years. It can affect you, make you feel shyer, affect your decisions, affect your lifestyle and most importantly affect your mental health. So let me try to explain:
From a young age I strived to do well in school, get a stable good and support my family. In order to do so I would pay attention in class, rarely mess around and do well on tests or homework. So yes you guessed it from the tender age of 6 I was declared a nerd, a geek, call it what you want but it doesn’t change the meaning. And because I didn’t let it bring me down or make me feel self-conscious in any way I continued ahead and only had eyes for my goal and the steps I needed to take to get there. But despite my stubbornness and motivation it still nagged away in my brain somewhere in a small corner. As a young child, it didn’t affect me that much but as I became older it started bugging me more and more. I mean firstly who do those people think they are calling me names when they barely even know me, have barely talked to me and don’t even know why I am the way I am. I mean why do they get to just label us. We are just as human as they are. In a way we are even better than they are, we appreciate our education, know the value and want to make the most of it but they waste it and have no gratitude. I mean I grew up having been taught by my parents, who weren’t brought up in the western world and lived a hard life, to appreciate everything I have. My health, my education, a family and friends so really anger rages through me when I see people throw away their opportunities when others in the world would lose an arm for it and are much more deserving of it.
I feel like labels don’t do justice to the people that have to live with them. There’s so much more to a person and their personality (their essence) than a simple word. I mean we have complicated personalities that can’t be summed up in one word. That word may dominate most of our ways but we all have something somebody doesn’t know about and that special little something will just be overseen if we have a label on us. People will only see us through that label, won’t appreciate our variable attitudes and won’t even try to get to know us purely because of our labels. Also, everyone is different and unique but grouping them under one label such as cheerleaders, geeks and I don’t know what else is taking that uniqueness away. It’s stereotypical and dumb and it prevents a lot of friendships from blooming simply because they have a label. I mean why can’t a cheerleader be smart, funny and cute? Here’s the answer: They can but no matter how hard they try due to the social hierarchy they will always only be labelled as one group and after that, they will only be seen as that one group and the stereotypical views that are associated with it, will be associated with that person.
Due to my label, a lot of pressure has been put on me as well. Because I am defined as a goody-goody or nerd people only see me as that. They don’t appreciate my other abilities but not only that because I have performed well in the past, people expect me to perform well for everything and every time. But I am also humans I also make mistakes but they don’t understand that and when I get a lower mark they almost make me feel bad about it. Because it wasn’t expected. They aren’t doing it on purpose but that feeling arises from questions about my mark or comments about it like: “Oh if she didn’t do well then we are guaranteed to have failed” But I mean that’s not necessarily true and then this pressure is on me to constantly do well in order to not disappoint them.
What a cruel world right? And all that fuss simply because of a label… You tell me is that really fair? Why do we have to have labels, something that defines us? Why can’t we just live freely?
I challenge you to try to change if you were ever one of those people who gave people labels. And if you were given a label, just ignore it. I know easier said than done but I mean they don’t have power over you and there’s so much more to you than a few words uttered by someone. You can be whoever you want to be and if you want to change, do it! Don’t let them rule your life and influence your decision and don’t feel like you have to live up to their expectations. That’s one of the most important things I got out of this.
So that’s it, guys. Sorry it’s a long post but I felt quite passionate about this topic and I was wondering whether to wrote on it or not because it’s quite controversial. What do you guys think about labels? Have you got one? If you have any questions just leave a comment below. Love you guys!