Safety net

I think almost everyone has one it’s all nice and rosy in life because you have like a back-up UNTIL you become one. That’s when I realised that everyone has one, heck even I probably had one, even though I am ashamed to admit it now, but it got me thinking is it really fair to the person who is your safety net?

 

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Okay so maybe I should back up a bit. For a while now I realised that I don’t really have a best friend like most people do instead I have many close friends who occasionally hang out with me. I always felt I was missing out on something and I just didn’t know why. I still don’t know why and I am still confused as to why this is happening to me. What did I ever do to deserve this? I explained this all in one of my recent posts: Not good enough am I? But it never occurred to me why some people were friends with me or why some would only really talk to me on certain days. But then a few days ago, like a said previously I am in a trio of friends and the other two seem to be a bit closer, one of them literally didn’t talk to me the whole day until the second friend in the trio left so there was only me and her and only then did she start talking to me properly and we had a laugh and it was all fun and games. But at home, it dawned on me that I was her second choice and the only reason she talked to me was because the other friend had already left. I wouldn’t say I was her safety net because sometimes we talk even though the other friend is there but it almost seemed like it. But then I started noticing it with others who I am close with but maybe not as close as the two in my trio and I noticed how I was their safety net for sure and they didn’t even try to conceal it or hide it. It was so obvious and I wondered why I had never noticed it before. I guess I knew somewhere but never admitted it for fear of it being true so just lived a lie. It’s one of these things that once you see them you can’t unsee them and you start seeing them everywhere or in my case with almost everyone. It’s also one of the ways I found out who my true friends are and who really wanted to be friends with not just as their Plan B or a back-up but truly valued my friendship.

Now yes I admit even I probably had one without noticing that one friend that I would talk to thinking I just barely “see” her but really I only “saw” her when I didn’t see my immediate close friends. And to a degree, I think everyone had one or two of those kinds of friends and I think it’s become normal because we are so used to it by now. It’s become a habit for everyone to have a safety net. It’s a way of survival amongst society because you don’t want to be seen as friendless or a “loner” but I also think just because we are used to it doesn’t mean it’s right especially when the person who is your safety thinks you guys are more than that, like proper friends, not just a second option. You can’t lead someone on like that and hurt their feelings. We need to be less selfish and look around and see and acknowledge those people and let them go. Let them have their own lives and friends which they deserve. We need to put our feelings aside for once and understand theirs and put ourselves in that position. I know it’s a lot to ask because frankly, I didn’t even know I had a safety net. I didn’t even understand the concept until I became one. It’s hard for anyone to understand who hasn’t been in that situation. I am going to try to change and I know it’s going to be hard but I hope you guys will too. Firstly I think I will do what I should have done long ago. This is for all my past safety net friends: 

I am so so sorry that I lead you on and that I let you have hope in me. I am sorry that I seem to have used you and only talked to you when I didn’t have immediate friends nearby. I am sorry that I never acknowledged your feelings and only blindly cared about mine. I am sorry that I was so selfish and lastly I am sorry for not understanding you or realising what I put you through. I can’t change the past only learn from it but I can change the future and I give you my word that I will no longer be like this. I will no longer be blind and ignorant. I will change.

Sorry, it was a long post but I just had to let it all out. What do you guys think of this? Have you ever been a safety net friend or do you have one without realising? Love you all!

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Girlalert xxx

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Letting go of people

Heya readers,

I am sorry I haven’t been able to post more regularly but to my defence if you read my last post you can probably guess why. Firstly I have had more and more people join this community or little group of ours, especially this week. So welcome to everyone who’s new and welcome back to anyone who has already been with me. I hope you guys had a great week whether that be at school or at work. But I still go to school so well it hasn’t been that great because I have heaps of homework but what to do right? Haha. So it got me thinking with school, comes friends and sometimes fights. Friends come and go but some you have to let go. And this was the case this week.

To give you a brief rundown, one of my closest friends yet and me had a bit of a tangle. And if you know me I am usually the type of friend that will apologize even when it’s clearly not my fault. I will talk myself into thinking it was all my fault. But this time I thought she was just looking for a fight and totally over-reacting about the issue. So for once I stood up for myself and told her so. In other situations, I would apologise the next day but this time I didn’t apologise and I told myself not to. It was obviously not my fault and I was sick of being pushed around and taking responsibility or everything. In addition, I had a feeling that my friend and I had been growing apart for quite some time. I mean I would text her and I could see she had seen it but she wouldn’t reply and we didn’t meet as much, etc. I just felt this gap growing between us. We were becoming distant and had less in common because she had changed so much in the time I knew her. That’s when I realised she wasn’t the same person anymore, she wasn’t the person I befriended and it’s not her fault or mine or anyone’s. People change it’s natural but I hadn’t changed I was still the same so that’s why we talked less and had less common and grew apart. That made me decide that although it was hard I had to let her go. I had known her for so long and confided in her and everything and in the past we had made great memories but it just wasn’t the same.  I, We couldn’t pretend it was and blindly cling onto it. So although ti was hard, painful and emotional I told her that we had both changed and we would remain friends but we can’t force it to be best friends or close friends the way we used to be. She accepted it and we kinda went out separate ways. we still say hi and have the occasional small talk but we don’t hang out nearly as much. And honestly, it feels better. I know it sounds strange but I am glad we got that out of the way and faced the awkwardness before it got even more awkward. I feel like I don’t have to pretend to like all the things she does or pretend to understand the things she talks about or go looking for her in order to spend time with her. I feel more confident and independent and free like I don’t have to pretend to be someone in order to hang out with her and her new friends. So yeah guys that’s it.

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Have you ever had to let go of friends maybe even a partner?

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Forgiveness… yeah that’s going to happen

Hey guys,

So recently I got in a bit of an argument with one of my friends. To give you a quick idea: She talked badly about me behind my back but then pretended she never did it and was extremely nice and innocent to my face. She also told some of my secrets that I told her in confidence. So she backstabbed me and betrayed me. I was really upset at first but I mean it happened already there’s nothing I or anybody can do to change that. Still, it hurt. I didn’t mind really that my secrets were in the open but more that she would talk badly about me. I hadn’t given her a reason to I realised she just wanted to gossip about others and because I trusted her and she turned out to be someone I didn’t think she was I was in shock and just sad. Sad that she pretended to be my friend and that she betrayed me without a second thought. It’s true what they say people aren’t always what they seem. I heard that she had done it to others so I was in a way prepared and had it coming but it still was shocking I guess I had this little hope that I was different. That our friendship meant more than that because I knew her the most and I was her closest friend, so I thought.

After she learnt that I had found out and she came rushing up to me saying stuff like “I didn’t mean it. I really do love you. It was just a stupid mistake. Forgive me please I am so sorry.” and “It won’t happen again”. But I just needed time to think I mean what did this mean for our friendship, could I really forgive her after that and am I sure I want to be friends with a person like that. I mean everyone talks about others a bit I am not going to lie but no one should do that to your best friends and not say such horrible, mean things about anyone really. Especially not tell secrets your best friend told you in confidence. So I took some time to think everyone would come up to me and say stuff like “Oh she’s just a B. She does that to everyone. SO annoying. Are you okay?” But I think by saying that you are almost sinking to their level. I learnt that I just want to take time and think about things with a calm head and mind without revenge or anger. So after a while, I decided knowing she was truly sorry I chose to forgive her. I realised that to move on from anything you need to forgive you can’t hold a grudge and I personally hate to leave on bad terms. Everyone deserves a second chance as long as they want it. Don’t get me wrong terrorists don’t deserve a second chance or any pity but this wasn’t nearly that bad so I forgave her because I wanted to move on from it not hold onto it and not let it make me sad over and over. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. I will always remember what she did because I would be stupid and careless to just forget it. That’s a side of her I never knew but now I am prepared. I am ready to give her another chance but I will keep in mind that, that side of her also exists. No matter how small it may be. This doesn’t mean holding grudges I am giving her a second chance but it means being smart and learning from your mistakes. I know she was truly sorry and I am too that she wasn’t who I thought she was. But the side of her that I befriended also exists in her and I think she is worth it as long as I am careful.

We are working on rebuilding our relationship now. I learning to slowly let my guard down again. I don’t know yet if I will ever fully trust her again but I still hope we can be friends after we figure the rest of it out. I know it won’t be like before but I mean it’s better than pretending to be oblivious to her other side and getting hurt again. That’s living a lie and I think that’s much worse.

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Have you guys ever had that happen to you? How did you deal with it? Do you think I made the right decision?

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Girlalert xxx

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Patience… who has the time for that?

“Have patience all things are difficult before they become easy” – Saadi

So this is a quality I value very highly. It’s simple yet challenging. Patience is needed in most cases at any age. Say if you are hungry but you have to have patience because the food’s not ready, or you have completed an exam but you just can’t wait to get your results, or your a new mother and that baby just won’t stop crying or you just went to a job interview and desperately want to know if you got the job. I could go on and on with different scenarios but the one thing they have in common is that you have to have patience in order to face situations in life whether small insignificant ones like hunger to big life-changing ones.

Patience is so key to your life. It will not only prepare you for the worst and best situations of life and make you one if the best partners to have both platonically and romantically but it also prevents you from taking rash decisions that could change your life and you end up regretting them later. Not only that but only with patience can you develop and nurture a new skill such as learning an instrument. With patience you would practice and continue to practice until the piece you learnt to play on an instrument is perfect. This, in the end, will boost your self-esteem and make you happy but if you didn’t have the patience to keep practicing then you would have given up when even the smallest of hurdles are in your way and that would simply just make you frustrated, the opposite of happy. And I know it’s basic to point it out but I think we would all rather be happy. Basically, in my eyes, patience keeps your life in order.

 

Especially since many people nowadays don’t have the patience for little things like waiting 5 minutes at a junction (and instead cross the road whilst cars are speeding either side) or being stuck in traffic jams, I think it’s important for everyone including me to just reconsider our actions and just take a minute and breathe and think.

Oh and if those reasons aren’t sufficient… Patience actually keeps your health in check by decreasing your stress levels. High stress levels can lead to awful things that could grow and expand into more serious things like CHD.

So like said patience is key. Now I am not saying I am very patient. I know exactly how hard it is for us to be patient in the modern world when every day they come up with new things to decrease the amount of time wasted on insignificant things. Like ready meals instead of cooking a meal at home or even the microwave which warms your food a lot faster than the stove. But patience is vital to life and I think we should keep that in mind as things continue to change and modernise around us. What do you think of this? Let me know below in the comments.

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Girlalert xxx

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P.S. Sorry I couldn’t post yesterday but I am currently travelling in remote areas with my family where we don’t always have internet access so only when we are near or in a hotel or a place with wifi can I post. Sorry!! xx

Jealousy

Bildergebnis für jealousyOkay so here’s my problem… I don’t want to admit it because it shows how horrible I am but I get jealous sometimes. I literally hate myself for it. It’s like there are two sides to me: the one which says “you have the right to be jealous just as long as you don’t act on it” and the other saying “don’t even think about being jealous when you have so much to be happy about. Don’t go looking for trouble by being ungrateful” but the thing is I want to believe that I am a good person so will only pick the second one but sometimes my will just isn’t big enough and the first side kinda takes over. It makes it even harder to be jealous of someone who you are actually close to and care about. I mean if you like someone you don’t really want to think about them badly or wish them bad things. So you’re probably asking where the hell did this come from?

Well recently I was jealous of something so petty and stupid it even shames me to say it or write it but it reminded me of how many other times I had been jealous of someone in the past. Occasionally I would be jealous of a friend simply because my other friends were paying more attention to them or sometimes I can be jealous of someone I don’t even like in the first place. If that’s the case it’s much easier to live with yourself being jealous of them but it still doesn’t make it right and when I come to my senses I think “What the hell? Why am I like this when this is nothing like me? I mean I think I am a good person I wish no harm to anyone even those who might wish harm to me and I believe that everyone should be given second chances even if they have wronged us in the past (because well let’s admit that none of us are faultless). So given the person I am, after I have cleared my head I realise that most of the time that we are jealous it’s for petty reasons. I think jealousy has stopped me from making new friendships in the past, has restricted me and I don’t like the person I become when I am overwhelmed by it aka a green-eyed monster. Envy is just unnecessary in most cases and it just brings trouble so I believe that I should try to listen more to that second side of mine rather than the first. One great way to stop jealousy is to stop comparing yourself. I mean everyone is unique and different if their own way. Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses so really it’s not fair to either of you if you compare yourself to another person. Just because someone else is better than you at something doesn’t mean you have to beat them or be jealous because there’s probably something you are better at than them. I know that’s easier said than done but I am going to give it a try and I think everyone should. It doesn’t hurt to try after all. What are your guys’ views on this? Have you ever been jealous and regretted it? Let me know in the comments.

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Girlalert xxx

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Opening up

Hey guys,

So this post is a little more personal in general and I have been really scared to write it so far but I mean if not here on this platform where I am anonymous then like where right? I actually had a conversation with I guess I could call her a good friend of mine by now which kinda brought the subject back into my mind and encouraged me to finally write about it. And hey you never know maybe someone will be able to relate to this and connect? So here goes nothing

Ever since I was little I struggled with opening up to people and sharing my feelings and emotions. Mainly I guess because my brother wasn’t exactly the best of kids, he was more like a troublemaker and ever since I was little my parents would say I brought happiness and peace to the family. I saw from a very young age what my brother did to the family at times, he didn’t mean to it was just his nature and since my parents were already stressed enough I decided I didn’t want to cause them even more stress so from then on I vowed to be the perfect child. I always did well in school, helped out at home and tried my best to always smile to my parents even on days when I feel really down. This put a lot of stress on me without me even realising because I felt like I had to be twice as good a child as any other good child in order to compensate for my brother, whom I still love by the way. He is still a great brother at times but he has his negatives as well. Because I always had this pressure on me to be perfect I learnt to hide my feelings just not share them because I didn’t want my parents to worry about me as well. This kinda became like an armour for me; a mask I would put on every morning and only take off when I am alone. For example, I was bullied severely in school for being good at subjects you know the perfect nerd I guess but I never told anyone not my parents, not my teachers, not anyone. At night I would cry by myself wondering “Why me? What have I done to deserve this?”. Although I was always sad I would smile at my parents. So one day a teacher saw them bully me physically and called my parents. Of course, when I came home they were worried and I just played it off as if it were nothing. I said it only happened once, a lie, and I said that I was dealing with it, also a lie. I just didn’t want to give them another thing to worry about. I guess because it became almost second nature to not share my feelings I stopped thinking about it as much. It wasn’t a mask I put on anymore it became part of me. Because of this I also struggled to open up to my friends so they actually became friends with that part of me, the part that just hides it and never confesses. They only knew me as this happy, carefree person who had no worries in the entire world. This person who was friends with so many people, did well in school and her parents loved her. But really I wasn’t under the whole facade I was still this insecure girl. The longer I kept on pretending the harder it was to even think about opening up and the more insecure I became. At some point it wasn’t even a choice anymore, I would never be able to open up to anyone. I mean if I ever told my friends about how I really felt I thought they would hate me or judge me and stop being friends with me simply because I am not as happy as my superficial appearance gives me out to be. By the time I realised what was causing this insecurity it was too late to change because like I said it has become part of me. And I guess that’s also when I understood just how dangerous a thing it is.

That’s part of the reason I started this blog I guess, a platform I could totally be myself especially if I was anonymous. Shortly after I got a fresh start, a new school, I decided I was going to fight myself and stop hiding my emotions. I mean if I was sad one day then I was, it’s natural everyone has their “down days”. So I made new friends at this new school by totally being myself so I would know that the reason they became friends with me and like me is for me not someone I pretend to be. And guess it worked out great so in a way, I have learnt from my mistake and although it took quite a while to figure it out and work against it I still feel happy I went through the phase because it taught me something. Now even though some people call me emotional or soft, compared to how I pretended to be hard and not let anything get to me, I just fire back and say “So, what? That’s all you got? Don’t pretend you aren’t.” Not only have my insecurities subsided but my confidence has grown substantially. It’s hard to describe until you have been through it. But it almost feels like I am happier now like this burden has been lifted off my shoulders and I can just be myself. I still want to make my parents happy so sometimes I don’t tell them if I am sad but hey I have got my friends and this blog. And I am still working on totally opening up to them. And I think it is working so far. So wish me luck 😉

So yeah that’s pretty much it for this blog guys, I realise that it’s long sorry about that and it’s a lot more personal than any of the ones before but hey I decided why not give it a try. Tell me what you think in the comments below!!

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Girlalert xxx

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Don’t force a friendship

Hi guys,

So in the past, I have been friends with some people who well I am not really friends with now. We just grew apart or couldn’t keep in touch or just changed. It’s normal and natural. But when something like that happens with one of my close friends it’s hard to let go and that’s exactly what happened a while ago when I had to distance myself from one of my best friends in my whole entire life. Like mentioned I didn’t find it easy. When I first noticed that we are starting to grow apart, I became worried. So I tried to hang out more with her, tried to talk to her, opened up more in case that would prompt her to open up and in the end I just couldn’t take it anymore so I went up to her and asked her straight to her face what’s going on and what happened that caused us to grow apart because I couldn’t understand. I mean we had been friends for long, barely had a fight, totally understood each other and went through a lot together. Although I had good intentions I think that made her anxious and almost feel pressured so we distanced ourselves even more from each other and when I saw her passing in the corridor I would feel embarrassed and wouldn’t talk to her. A little bit of anger built up inside of me as well because I was filled with pain, regret and confusion. I started being mad at myself, her and the world. But really it’s no one’s fault I mean some things just aren’t meant to be and it’s not like she meant to hurt me or upset me. She just needed some time to herself. I know now that was wrong of me to blame it on her but back then I couldn’t think, I didn’t want to think I only wanted answers. More than anything. So I guess you can say I tried to force a friendship which not only didn’t work but pushed her away from me even more. In case you were wondering: now we are good friends, not as close as before but we still keep in touch and I am glad we do and I have learnt my lesson not to ever push anyone like that again. To never put anyone in that awkward situation.

So in short just don’t force something whether friendship or relationship  Don’t change yourself in order to get their attention or keep them interested because at the end of the day happiness relies on you being true to yourself and if you are changing yourself to please them you aren’t being yourself. Thus no matter how happy you may seem on the surface you can never be fully content this way. Simply said if it’s meant to happen it will and if it doesn’t it won’t and there will be a reason even if it’s hard to distinguish the reason there always is one. And most importantly it’s not anyone’s fault and they aren’t bad friends if they decide they wanted to go their separate ways or you guys just drifted apart. It’s just life! Not everything that comes, sticks around!

If you guys want me to write about anything in particular just comment below or send me an e-mail. If you want to talk to me about anything just reach out. Remember I won’t judge and I really do want to help you guys. Love you all

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Girlalert xxx

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Labels

Okay, first of all, I don’t mean labels on books or those that you write your name on 😉 I mean social ones. The ones that people get assigned in high-school and sometimes those very labels, that were just given to you without a care by people that don’t even know you, can haunt you for a lot longer than just high-school years. It can affect you, make you feel shyer, affect your decisions, affect your lifestyle and most importantly affect your mental health. So let me try to explain:

From a young age I strived to do well in school, get a stable good and support my family. In order to do so I would pay attention in class, rarely mess around and do well on tests or homework. So yes you guessed it from the tender age of 6 I was declared a nerd, a geek, call it what you want but it doesn’t change the meaning. And because I didn’t let it bring me down or make me feel self-conscious in any way I continued ahead and only had eyes for my goal and the steps I needed to take to get there. But despite my stubbornness and motivation it still nagged away in my brain somewhere in a small corner. As a young child, it didn’t affect me that much but as I became older it started bugging me more and more. I mean firstly who do those people think they are calling me names when they barely even know me, have barely talked to me and don’t even know why I am the way I am. I mean why do they get to just label us. We are just as human as they are. In a way we are even better than they are, we appreciate our education, know the value and want to make the most of it but they waste it and have no gratitude. I mean I grew up having been taught by my parents, who weren’t brought up in the western world and lived a hard life, to appreciate everything I have. My health, my education, a family and friends so really anger rages through me when I see people throw away their opportunities when others in the world would lose an arm for it and are much more deserving of it.

I feel like labels don’t do justice to the people that have to live with them. There’s so much more to a person and their personality (their essence) than a simple word. I mean we have complicated personalities that can’t be summed up in one word. That word may dominate most of our ways but we all have something somebody doesn’t know about and that special little something will just be overseen if we have a label on us. People will only see us through that label, won’t appreciate our variable attitudes and won’t even try to get to know us purely because of our labels. Also, everyone is different and unique but grouping them under one label such as cheerleaders, geeks and I don’t know what else is taking that uniqueness away. It’s stereotypical and dumb and it prevents a lot of friendships from blooming simply because they have a label. I mean why can’t a cheerleader be smart, funny and cute? Here’s the answer: They can but no matter how hard they try due to the social hierarchy they will always only be labelled as one group and after that, they will only be seen as that one group and the stereotypical views that are associated with it, will be associated with that person.

Due to my label, a lot of pressure has been put on me as well. Because I am defined as a goody-goody or nerd people only see me as that. They don’t appreciate my other abilities but not only that because I have performed well in the past, people expect me to perform well for everything and every time. But I am also humans I also make mistakes but they don’t understand that and when I get a lower mark they almost make me feel bad about it. Because it wasn’t expected. They aren’t doing it on purpose but that feeling arises from questions about my mark or comments about it like: “Oh if she didn’t do well then we are guaranteed to have failed” But I mean that’s not necessarily true and then this pressure is on me to constantly do well in order to not disappoint them.

What a cruel world right? And all that fuss simply because of a label… You tell me is that really fair? Why do we have to have labels, something that defines us? Why can’t we just live freely?

I challenge you to try to change if you were ever one of those people who gave people labels. And if you were given a label, just ignore it. I know easier said than done but I mean they don’t have power over you and there’s so much more to you than a few words uttered by someone. You can be whoever you want to be and if you want to change, do it! Don’t let them rule your life and influence your decision and don’t feel like you have to live up to their expectations. That’s one of the most important things I got out of this.

So that’s it, guys. Sorry it’s a long post but I felt quite passionate about this topic and I was wondering whether to wrote on it or not because it’s quite controversial. What do you guys think about labels? Have you got one? If you have any questions just leave a comment below. Love you guys!

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Girlalert xxx

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Forget and forgive

So everyone has fights and if you are close to the people you had a fight with then you’ll forgive them or you equally forgive each other eventually. Most people would say that after that “all is forgiven and forgotten” but although it’s nice to forgive people sometimes it’s important to not forget that doesn’t mean holding a grudge because if you the only thing you’re doing it poisoning yourself and believe me that’s just worse. Plus it could drive away people from you because let’s be honest nobody wants to be friends with someone who only cares about revenge? No offence 😉 But instead I just mean learn from your mistakes that could be…

a) the reason you had a fight is because of something you did. So in that case simply don’t do it again. Learn from your past and mistakes and if you want to remain close to them and you know that a certain thing you did upset them before just don’t do it again. I am not saying change yourself because you never should for anyone unless you know you’re changing for the better in which case you’re changing for yourself. See the blog post I did on that here

b) they did something that angered you then learn from their mistakes. In fact, my mum always used to say don’t say make your mistakes and learn from them learn from others’ mistakes as well that will you will learn something from them and you won’t actually have to carry out the mistakes and pay for the consequences. It’s a double win, right?

But basically, if you forget what happened your friend/family member and you could have a fight again maybe even on the same thing and I mean if that can be avoided why shouldn’t it? That way everyone is happier 🙂

So that’s it for this post guys. The basic message is simple: learn to forgive but also learn from your/others’ mistakes. If you guys want to get in touch with me about anything just drop me an e-mail you can find that under Contact ME!!

Love you guys always.

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Girlalert xxx

Changing for the better

Hiya everyone,

What were you up to this steaming hot summer? Well, I went to my favorite place in the entire world. And no, before you ask, it’s not home. But I ain’t gonna tell you where I went either cos’ that would surely reveal my identity and we don’t want that now, do we? 😉 Anyway I am so so sorry that I haven’t been regular on my blog for quite a long while now. So I guess this post is also to tell you guys: I’M STILL ALIVE!!!!  The reason for my absence is really quite simple, if you live in England and go to secondary school here then you would surely by now know that at the end of each year you will have end-of-year exams for almost every single subject. And let me tell you when you studying over 20 subjects then it’s kinda hard to get free time cos’ YOU WILL BE REVISING MONTHS IN ADVANCE TO JUNE!! I know it’s not an excuse but I also kinda didn’t have too much time cos’ I wanted to enjoy my last few days of lower school with my class, as we completely get reshuffled and some of my friends left at the end of Year 8/ beginning of Year 9. Really sad I know 😦 Anyway let’s begin this post properly.

I guess you could say that this post is linked but almost contradicting my earlier post about “BEING YOURSELF!”. So… basically, let me break it down for you. Changing for the better doesn’t mean that you still can’t be yourself. Remember what I said about learning from others makes us unique, we choose the skills we like about others and learn to use them ourselves. The combination of those skills from different people makes us unique. So changing for the better is basically learning a new skill from another person and adding it to your personality, if you know what I mean. So you’re still yourself, you just changed a little bit FOR THE BETTER. And remember completely copying someone in all their skills and trying to be just like them is neither changing for the better nor being yourself. Also, you are still being yourself and if changing makes you happy and you think you can become a better person out of it then why not go for it? You are not changing for anyone else but only for yourself, that’s the most important thing. I hope that didn’t confuse you too much 😉 If you still have any question then just drop me an e-mail. You can find my e-mail address at the bottom of almost every single post or on the contact me page. oh and guys pls remember I made this e-mail for you guys, so don’t be shy just talk to me.

Going offline,

Girlalert xxx

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